36-year-old sneaks her own food to her friend's wedding, groom's mother catches her and throws a fit: '[This] wedding is about the couple, not about your diet!'

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  • '[Am I wrong] for bringing my own food to a wedding?'

    People raising glasses at a wedding toast.
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  • So I (36F) went to my college friends wedding last weekend. I was really excited for it, shes a good friend and I wanted to celebrate.
  • The issue is I have a medical condition that means I cant eat certain common ingredients (gluten and dairy). It's not a fad diet or a preference, I get very sick if I eat them. I mentioned this
  • on the RSVP card where it asked about dietary restrictions. The bride told me the venue couldn't guarantee anything gluten- or dairy-free because of cross- contamination, but she hoped I'd "make do with the salad and fruit."
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  • I didnt want to cause troubl, so I just quietly brought a small container of safe food in my bag (literally just grilled chicken and rice). When dinner was served, I
  • discreetly went outside for 5 minutes, ate it quickly, then came back in to join everyone. I didn't make a scene, didn't bring smelly food, didn't take anything away from the event.
  • Turns out the groom's mother saw me with the container outside and apparently told a bunch of people I was "disrespecting the caterer" and "making the couple look cheap."
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  • At the reception, she confronted me and said I was "embarrassing the family" and that I should've just eaten beforehand if I had an issue. I explained that I wanted to be there for the full event and didn't want to faint or get sick.
  • She rolled her eyes and said I was selfish and that the weddings is "about the couple, not about your diet." some of our mutual friends also agree that I made an a hle move and made the couple look bad....
  • Now I'm wondering if I really crossed a line. I didn't want to draw attention, but maybe I should've handled it differently. So, AITA for bringing my own food to a wedding?
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  • A smiling senior woman wearing a light blue blouse poses for the camera.
  • lamIrene 21h ago I have a medical condition NTA. You took care of your own needs. That's it. Is it somehow respectful to eat food that would physically harm you? LOL. No.
  • The groom's mother is looking to make trouble where it doesn't exist. Ignore her.
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  • SFerd 21h ago . NTA at all! The groom's mother DEFINITELY is!
  • You went out of your way to not inconvenience the wedding party or caterer. No one would have known if the groom's mother hadn't made a big deal about it.
  • catskilkid 21h ago . NTA The ONLY drama is from the groom's mother. You have NOTHING to be ashamed of by celebrating your friend's special day and MINIMIZING
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  • your absence. So in the celebration of her son's big day, this lady decided to duck out of the reception which according to her is ride and disrespecting the bride and groom, or she was
  • following you for some bizarre unhinged reason. The more she makes it an issue, the more unhinged she shall appear. Don't worry and well played.

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